Monday, September 25, 2023

Mike didn't love the beach as I do. It was a drinking trigger for him before I met him, so I didn't push ocean vacations for a long time.

In 2008, we spent time on Florida beaches while visiting my dad. Beachwalking was a daily activity, as was eating fresh seafood.


He was hooked.

Together, we enjoyed Pawley's Island, Hilton Head, Kitty Hawk. He ate his weight in clams, shrimp, and scallops, then walked it off.

I’m at the beach now. I saw the sunrise and turtle hatchlings this morning, and wished he was here. 

Actually, I think he is.

Monday, September 18, 2023


When  I met Mike 30 years ago, politics was a peripheral interest. That changed over time. He switched from Independent to Democrat when Kerry ran for president. When Obama came to Beckley to announce his run, we were there.

We knocked on doors, went to rallies, engaged with current voters and registered more. We had parties – for debates, election nights, and inaugurations. He was thrilled when Obama won – twice!

Mike’s activism increased after Trump’s election. He would now find it unbelievable that anyone indicted for tampering with an election would be a frontrunner for the GOP.

And he would be right.

Monday, September 11, 2023

He was usually a cautious driver. Not this
night, though. He ran into a tree which
had fallen across Rt. 12. He started his last
round of chemo the next day. That – and
the dark night – might explain his not seeing
the fallen tree.

How was Mike cautious?

Let me count the ways.

He waited two minutes after arming the home alarm to make sure nothing went wrong before we left the property.

He held his breath as I drove him to clinic appointments, certain we would be late. I was never late. Not once. 

Until he sold his mother’s house, he made a daily 24-mile round trip to ensure it was still standing.

He always had a contingency plan. Did he ever surprise me?

He put my name on the deed to our house in 2021, sixteen months before he died. And this.

Monday, September 4, 2023

That man could eat. And he loved to eat. And that’s why esophageal cancer was an especially cruel fate for him.

He’d been ‘cured’ when we went to Hilton Head early in 2019. We stumbled upon a hole-in-the-wall New Orleans-themed restaurant, and he slayed the fried seafood platter.

Six months later, he wasn’t cured after all. Good thing he still had the feeding tube.

I’m going back to Hilton Head soon, alone, with plans to walk the beach, search for shells, write, read, maybe even draw.

I won’t, however, be eating seafood at Kenny B’s. That would be too sad.